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-Warning Signs of an Abuser

-In the Mind of the Abuser

-Patterns of Emotional Abuse

-Patterns of Physical Abuse

-Patterns of Sexual Abuse

-Social Supports for Abuse

-A Comparison of the Cycles of
Violence

-The Cycle of Domestic Violence

-Domestic Violence And Pregnancy

-How Survivors Cope

-Co-Dependent or Abused

-The Separation Cycle

-Words Are Powerful

-Is He Really Going To Change This
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-Safety
While the majority of survivors
are women, men can also be
victims. For the sake of
simplicity, we refer to the
victim/survivor as “she” and the
perpetrator/abuser as “he”
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Co-Dependent or Abused

For years victims of domestic violence have been labeled co-dependent. The following is a set of
characteristics of a co-dependent as offered by Co-Dependents Anonymous, compared with the
reality of a woman who is abused.

CO-DEPENDENT: I take responsibility for others’ feelings and/or behaviors.

ABUSED: I am held responsible for my abuser’s feelings and/or behaviors.

CO-DEPENDENT: I feel overly responsible for others’ feelings and/or behaviors.

ABUSED: For my safety, I must be aware of my abuser’s feelings and/or behaviors.

CO-DEPENDENT: I have difficulty expressing my feelings.

ABUSED: If I express my feelings, I jeopardize my safety.

CO-DEPENDENT: I have difficulty in forming and/or maintaining close relationships.

ABUSED: It is dangerous for me to form or maintain close relationships.

CO-DEPENDENT: I am afraid of being hurt or rejected.

ABUSED: Having been hurt and rejected, I am scared of re-victimization.

CO-DEPENDENT: I tend to harshly judge everything I do, think, or say, by someone else’s standards.
Nothing is done, said or thought “good enough.”

ABUSED: My abuser harshly judges everything I do, think, or say. Nothing I do is “good enough.”

CO-DEPENDENT: I question or ignore my own values to connect with significant others. I value others’
opinions more than my own.

ABUSED: My values and opinions are questioned/ignored by my abuser. For my safety I do not
express my own opinions.

CO-DEPENDENT: My self-esteem is bolstered by outer/other influences.

ABUSED: My self-esteem is systematically destroyed by my abuser’s tactics